5 Tips to Date Successfully Over 50
Love doesn’t stop with age. While you may not be in your 20’s anymore, dating when you are older can be even more exciting. Here are 5 tips to date successfully when you are over 50!
1. Embrace Your Age
Practice liking yourself and who you are now, no matter your age. There is no need to hide your age as we know aging is a natural part of life. Instead, learn to think about and share your age through your experiences, wisdom, and fondest memories. Let these positive moments in life that you’ve enjoyed define you, not the physical changes that we all go through!
2. Learn the Art of the Compliment
There is no better compliment than one that appreciates who a person is. Instead of saying “I think you look very beautiful/handsome”, try “I love your sense of humor/your energy/your wit”. Compliments that focus on internal characteristics and attributes are more meaningful than ones that focus on surface-level details, like how one looks. If you do want to compliment a physical attribute, always focus on features from the neck up such as someone’s smile.
3. Learn the Difference between Confident vs Cocky
No one likes when someone is boastful (i.e. “I’m the best at golfing” or “I’m the most successful CEO”). If you are particularly skilled at something, offer to share your experience. For example, you could say “I would love to share my passion for cooking with someone special”. This message shows that you are confident enough to share your skills with others and that you are secure enough to know your strengths without boasting.
4. Use Age-Appropriate Language in Conversation (and on dating profiles!)
While younger generations are constantly generating new phrases and expressions, using them when you are older may make you seem like you are trying to clutch onto youth. Instead, use age appropriate language and embrace your vocabulary. Looking to learn more words? Take up reading as a hobby or challenge yourself to learn a new word everyday.
5. Put the Games Aside
As we age, we have less patience for immaturity. We begin to value authenticity and vulnerability and respect others who are honest with us. If you have a nice time on a date, let your date know. If things didn’t go as planned, that’s ok! Be honest with your feelings. Likewise, do not lead someone on as you would not want someone to do this to you.
While dating in your 50’s, 60’s, even 70’s is different than dating in your 20’s, there is still much to look forward to. It is not uncommon for older people to be on the dating market, as it is common for people to want to share their life with another person. By embracing your age, learning how to give skillful compliments, expressing confidence without cockiness, using age appropriate language, and by being honest, you can date successfully and connect with others. And honestly, you might just be more successful in finding love than the silly 20 year olds anyways!